Yes a lot has changed for the better! And I'm glad for that. TtTE is only now making the move and I'd say better late than never. But we're not there yet.
You may have noticed this forum, as I have pointed out before, is rather male dominated? Which does not have to be an issue, but if topics like this come up it becomes painfully clear. It did make me feel unwelcome (yes I say again: whoever wants to call me a snowflake now is welcome to do so; I don't care). And I don't at all think the initial poster intended to do that, but I think sometimes men only see the male side of things, and nothing is going to change if not sometimes a woman shows how things look from where we're standing. And vice versa, actually.
And if not me, who then?
Ps I don't know spitfire, and don't know if he is a man. It looked like that from the post. Would be a nice twist to the tale if he weren't!