I don't quite follow the "bigger points of light" idea.
However there is what is known as the "useful aperture" after which stopping down does not increase the depth of focus to any great extent. It does, however, increase the possibility of diffraction, the bending of light around the edges of the iris which leads to a general decrease in the level of sharpness.
There is an excellent article about this, somewhere on the Olympus web site. Sorry, I've printed it off and I can't re-find the address!
The maths are fairly simple and it is possible to create an Excel worksheet that will do all the calculations to give near and far depth of field points as well as hyperfocal distance.
This can be put on a small, handheld computer for use in the field but I doubt that many will want to go to that extreme! It is however most useful to peruse these tables and relate them to the lenses that one uses.
As a gross generalisation most Olympus 4/3 lenses have a "sweet point" between f11 and f16. I try to use them in manual mode having set a hyperfocal distance. With a 14mm focal length focused to 2m at f7.1, near focus is 0.97m and far is infinity, hyperfocal point being 1.88m. I'd expect the figures for other DSLR's to be similar to this example of "useful aperture".
Hope this helps!
Edit: found it! www.olympus.co.uk/consumer/dslr_Depth_of_Field or just put "depth of field of the Olympus E-1" into a search engine. Enjoy!